I have experienced this before in a relationship where there was a lot of rejection and a lot of hurt, a lot of pain and I eventually made some decisions to take agency in that relationship and put up some healthy boundaries and honestly create some healthy separations um to give myself time to get emotionally regulated.
And it’s like, okay, if you’re going to reject me, then I am also going to create some safety around me so that the intensity of the ongoing rejection isn’t something that I’m now allowing you to continue. And the minute that I started to pull back and maybe even it wasn’t that I was rejecting them, I was drawing healthy boundaries, but they perceived it as me rejecting them. Yeah.
Then all of the sudden it went from famine of no attention to an absolute feast of so much attention. So what this did to me emotionally is I fell right into it. I was like, “Wow, okay. So now this is everything I’ve ever dreamed of.” I’ve dreamed of them saying like, “You’re so beautiful and there’s no one in the world that’s as amazing as you.
” But I want you to listen to kind of the extreme nature of that. And it went from the famine of like no flowers, no gifts, no love letters to all of a sudden things were showing up on my my front doorstep constantly. Amazon was very happy or Amazon was happy, the florist was happy, you know. Um, and so the way that I took that then because I fell right into the hook, like you said, the way I took it is this is everything I’ve ever dreamed of.
