failure to clarify the husbands and wife role in a relationship is a major cause of marital disruption as a couple when you’re married you will be involved in an almost endless number of activities and responsibilities and each one of them demand a decision assignment of tasks in a marriage should not be made simply because of parental example now what i mean by that is you know because your mother did it or your father did it it doesn’t mean that you should do it in your marriage because it may not be the best thing
they may have done it because of their father’s father’s father’s father’s habits but it may not mean it’s the best thing for you i will give you an illustration there was a wife who got married young beautiful bride and as they got together in the home uh off the honeymoon and everything you know about the story of how she was getting her to cook her christmas ham and as she began to cook cut the ham she cut it in half and throw one half away and she put the other half in the oven to break her husband watched this very
strange ceremony because he paid for the ham and he was trying to figure out why would my wife cut a ham in half and throw a half away and only cook one half and so he asked his wife he says rehab why did you do that and she said well my mom always did this and so he decided i’m gonna call my mother-in-law and find out why she did this and he called his mother-in-law and he asked her why did my wife throw this half of ham away and her mother’s told him well that’s the way my mother always did it and so no one seemed to be giving him
any answer that satisfied him so he called the grandmother and asked her and she was a very very old lady and he went and asked her miss uh why did you always throw half of the ham away and the old lady says well son let me explain it to you years ago uh when we were growing up when i was young a young wife we were very very poor and we did not have the resources to purchase uh a large pan to bake a ham in so in order for me to get the ham to fit in the pan i had to cut it in half because it’s the only kind the size of
the pan we had and so we would take the other half and throw it away put it on the side and of course we had to throw it away because he couldn’t keep because we didn’t have any refrigerators in those old days so we can only cook half of the ham and of course that was the grandmother’s explanation that’s why she would cut the half and the ham in half the half and half well he went back home and of course he had to correct his wife very quickly because they had a pan that was big enough for the ham it was up to date it’s now a day if you
