I’m working so hard [music] daily at forgiveness for my partner with 13 years who left our marriage. And I’m wondering how you move forward when you share children and you try [music] to co-parent with the very person that has hurt you. Uh what does this look like and [music] how can we learn to co-parent? Well, I think the first word that I pick up on in this question is how do I co-parent well, but also I think even deeper, how do I right now parent well? >> Yeah.
>> And I think there’s a lot that you guys probably have to say with this question. So, I’ll just make a quick comment and then toss it right over to you. I remember getting the advice that my kids deserve one healthy parent. And so even before we talk about co-parenting, I want to just mention like if you are walking toward an unwanted divorce, if you’re trying to survive an unwanted divorce because there was destructive realities in your home, then you making this decision to no longer allow those destructive realities in your home is
you taking a stand for your children so that they don’t then get these behaviors that they had witnessed and then start repeating them in their own life. But it is going to be crucial that you perceive that you pursue healing because your kids do deserve one healthy parent. I had a friend one time that was in a co-parenting situation and um her husband or soon to be ex-husband was bringing who used to be the affair partner to all the kids soccer games >> and she was devastated by this and it was really hard for her to see it. And
not only that, they would often make fun of her, you know. So, it’s like the husband and the affair partner, they were now a team. And now here she is as the soon to be ex-wife over here trying to cheer for her kids, but feeling just so beat down mentally in the process. And I remember looking at her and I said, “Prove them wrong.” Mhm.
>> If they’re sitting over there accusing you or talking or laughing or making fun of you because they’re trying to paint some kind of picture that you’re the soon to be crazy ex-wife, then prove them wrong. Don’t act crazy. If if they see you as weak, then don’t act weak. Find find some kind of strength that you can bring to that dynamic.
And one of the strength is cheer your kids on. smile, laugh, make it all about the kids and make it a whole lot less about the people that are hurting you. >> Yeah, that’s really good. Um I I there’s a common theme amongst all the questions that I think I want to just address and especially for this one.
