Get Back In The Fight

• The gift of victory. I think my oldest  son Elijah put it best one time. I don’t   remember how many years ago this was.  He was having a hard time in school   because they were dividing up and playing this  certain game with this certain team at recess,   and they kept losing.
• One of the  girls in his class said, “Elijah,   quit having such a bad attitude. It’s not if  you win or lose; it’s if you’re having fun.” So he came home mad every day. “We lost again,  and [whatever her name was] said, ‘It’s not   whether you win or lose; it’s whether or not  you have fun.'” After about three days of this,   he comes home. This is the most brilliant thing  that has ever been said in the Furtick household.
• Listen to what he said. He said, “Dad, today I got  her.” I said, “You got who? Y’all won?” He said,   “No, we still lost, but when she said that  after we lost…” His teammate who kept saying,   “It’s not whether you win or lose;  it’s whether you have fun.” He said,   “I was ready, and this time when she said,  ‘Elijah, it’s not if you win or lose;   it’s whether you have fun,’ I said, ‘Well,  I’m not having fun if I’m not winning.
• ‘” That’s my boy! He has that anointing of  antagonism, that anointing of counterattack   based in sound logic. That’s the truth, man. I’m  not having fun if I’m not winning. Maybe you’re   not competitive, you little Pollyanna positive,  “It’s not whether you win or lose.” That’s fine,   but our family is very different.  Our family does not have game nights.
• Oh, we tried. They were too bloody and  traumatic. I figured if I kept having   game nights with my kids, the therapy bill  would be through the roof when they get older,   because it always ended poorly. Y’all  pray for Holly because she has this   competitive spirit that would come out  at game night.
• Y’all believe that? Y’all   believe she was the problem? You must be  a first-time guest if you believe that. No, it was all of us, really…every single one of  us. Now, we have a lot of good family traditions.   I think our family is pretty cool, really  cool. I’m really proud of our family. We had   a family lunch club when the kids were smaller.  We had a Pixar challenge.