And I think gaslighting came from an old movie, right? There’s two different movies. Alfred Hitchcock has one. Yeah. Yeah. Where uh I don’t know. I can’t remember. Is it that the the woman would set the gas lamp, would go out and turn them on, turn all the knew on, knew they were on and he would begin to I used the dimmer switch in my office with clients or if we did it here, you know, it’d ruin the the video shoot.
But if you begin to dim the light, so it’s like not always sometimes that gas lighting more of a dimmer. Otherwise, you just go go click and turn the light off. She knew. People do that today. Did honey. Did I leave the porch light on? We always do every night. I know. I know. I did. She knew she turned it on. The guy came behind her and said, “You didn’t turn those lights on.
” So, the gas lamps or the gas lights, that is the gas lighting. He knew exactly that he was manipulating her. And she began to go, “Maybe I didn’t.” And then the crazy game’s on. And then and what is he hoping to do in turning those lanterns off and her saying, “I know I turned them on, but they’re off. So, did I turn them on?” Get her disregulated.
Again, what I call emotional or relational vertigo, because if you start spinning, if I’m an addict, and Jim Crest is a recovering addict, so I can relate to it. If I see you spinning and maybe crazy, you’re going to dial back possibly saying, “Well, I saw this sign or I saw something else.” you’re going to begin to back away and not hold me accountable because you’re going to think you crazy up in there and not that I’m crazy. Very functional.
