I would like help in [music] making peace with the part I played in the death of the marriage. It’s hard when my ex-husband’s family has one narrative and my family has another. I also have one, but it puts the blame with him. He left and moved in with somebody else. How can I discern truth and does it even matter? I carry so much shame as a Christian with a failed marriage and I want to prove to myself that the betrayal is real and I didn’t bring it on myself.
But perhaps I just need to let go of clarity. >> Wow. Yeah. >> Yeah. I think um how can I discern truth and does it even matter? Truth does matter, but you may not get all of the answers that you want. You know, sometimes when you’re talking about people’s narratives, you may not ever be able to understand someone else’s narrative about a situation.
You may never get to some of the baseline truths that you want. Why did this happen? when did it start? Um, how could I have missed it? Um, how could they support their son or how could they support this person who’s caused me so much pain? I thought I was part of the family and now they’ve just, you know, tossed me aside.
All of those things. You may never get some of those answers, but we can’t spend the rest of our life doing two things. We can’t spend the rest of our life trying to seek answers for these questions that may never come. >> Yeah. And we can’t control someone else’s narrative. Boy, have I wanted to. Boy, have I wanted to step in and hand somebody a piece of paper and say, how you’re thinking about this, how you’re talking about this, the narrative you’re repeating yourself is wrong.
