I want to start today’s episode in a different way than what we normally do I want to read you the introduction from or at least part of the introduction from my new book I want to trust you but I don’t I want to trust you but I don’t I want to believe that you have my best interest in mind just like I do for you I want to believe you don’t have hidden agendas motivations that are completely self-serving or something going on behind the scenes that I would be crushed by if I knew about it I want to
believe that the good feelings I have when you’re being kind to me will still feel good a month from now a year from now I want to believe you’ve told me the whole story and that I won’t make discoveries later that make me cry and feel the brutal weight of regret I want to believe that I won’t lie in bed sobbing over the red flags I missed or chose not to pay attention to I want to believe I can count on you I want to believe that your love is real and your care is genuine I want to believe I’ll feel wise and not stupid for trusting
you I want to believe I’m safe with you and that you really are my person I want to believe I’ll be okay if I trust you but I’m scared I’m afraid the risks are just too high my heart says I love you but my fear says it’s not safe and fear has the louder voice right now so I want to trust you but I don’t Joel as you and I studied the topic of trust in vertical cor relationships between us and God but also with relationships human to human we found something from a theological standpoint that I think is really important for us to remember yeah we do
want trust in our human- to Human Relationships but we can’t attach the full hope that we have of safety and our future and even stability in our relationships we can’t attach it to finding other humans who will never break our trust because the reality is all relationships carry with it a bit of risk because we’re having relationships with humans yeah I think that’s so true I remember as we’re working on kind of the theological core um for I want to trust you but I don’t um one of the things that really stuck out to me is
