Therapy & Theology: When Is It Time To Draw a Boundary?
hi welcome to another episode of therapy and theology I’m Lisa turkhurst here with Dr Joel munamawe and also Jim Kress who is a professional licensed counselor and my own counselor sure and my own Theologian so this is very exciting today we’re going to be tackling the topic of boundaries now if you’re a note-taking kind of person today is a great time to just hit the pause button on this go get something to take some notes and come back because I really think what we’re going to be sharing today is going to be incredibly helpful
so if you are taking notes then I want to give you three words to write down on your notes first I want you to write down the word access then I want you to write down the word responsibility and then I want you to write down the word consequence so once you have those three words written down I want to just focus on first these first two words access and responsibility when I started studying the topic of of boundaries it wasn’t because I’m an expert on boundaries it’s because I was struggling I had just experienced the
depth of a significant relationship and that is what I’m referring to it as because it was a relationship I thought would last a lifetime and then it didn’t and the shock of that required me to do a lot of therapeutic work and Jim you and I have worked for years now and met almost on a weekly basis for a really really long time so there was a lot that I had to work through and that I had to walk through and part of that was recognizing I really am not good at boundaries at times I’m good in some aspects and I bet
you are too so let’s first talk about where are you really good at boundaries so Joel today if I said I want you on this video to give everyone the password or the passcode to unlock your bank account access would you freely give that to me and Jim and everyone watching please probably not okay why why would you not freely give that because Brittany my wife would not be happy at all if I did something like that okay but it’s also maybe unwise because you know I know the both of you I’d probably give it to you guys but uh everybody
that’s a little scary I don’t know everybody and yeah so you don’t give that kind of access because you’re not convinced that everyone can be responsible with that kind of access right yeah okay Jim do you ever watch any kind of movies or do you have any kind of service where you’re streaming something on your TV and you have a passcode that prevents the whole world from from accessing that streaming through the subscription that you pay for I would like to say yes but mainly I just spend my time praying and reading
