welcome to this episode where we are talking about attachment Styles and you know in this whole series we’re talking about self-awareness and I have to say when I first heard of attachment Styles and started really looking into it this helped me become self-aware probably more than anything else and so I want to get both of your feedback on attachment Styles but mainly Jim we’re going to lean into you for this episode epod so take it away well I would start with you know we’ve done self-disclosure appropriately on this program before and
so my attachment style is an anxious from childhood an ancient anxious attachment style and I guess ancient too and um the idea of going around constantly looking am I safe do you approve of me do you like me and that ran the show in my life for for many many years so that’s just a true confession of my own style people will ask not trying to get too far ahead of it do you think attachment Styles can change best research I’ve read would be maybe a 30% chance or 30% of people can and I’ve said this way I don’t know if
attachment Styles really can change I guess they can but I know that I can change and I will and I have the number one thing I found in the attachment research if you want your attachment style unless it’s a secure attachment if you want it to change is due lots of self-awareness and a lot of therapy usually to work through that and you move from as I have from an anxious attachment style that can still rear its ugly head to more of a secure attachment style in functionality people will know by the way Dr John Balby uh who was
really the father and founder of the attachment field and he looked at you know think about a baby in utero is attached to an umbilical cord life and how safe they feel then they come out of the womb and it’s like where am I so already we’re all a little bit born into trauma right and separation after being with Mama separation from Mama he uh was this British psychoanalyst and he talked about really really studying infants and he found out that these caregiver roles whether it’s the parents or caregivers Day daycare is a big issue in our time
