Okay. So, let’s say we’re listening and we realize, okay, not labeling, but containing that this is information to help make us wise. Um, that we suspect we’re in a relationship with a narcissist. And now, what do we do? Well, a great book, again, bestseller, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes.
You know, a boundary without a consequence, we’ve said it many times, is a mere suggestion. A boundary is not you coming in with a ball ber going, I’m bounding you. But to begin to first see things where they are, contemplate less on the narcissistic person, but on you, and to say, “Have I been a supply? What’s been my very gently here, what’s my payoff?” And and there’s been a lot of rewards being in a relationship with a narcissist, whatever that Give me some examples of being the supply.
uh having to praise the person. the person is there and the supply would be you see something you know that’s not cool what’s going on or it’s even wrong or it’s hurtful but you don’t say anything you’re constantly they will demand I want this mean I want sex I’ll do whatever I want with my money our money I’ll do so that idea is I’m there to feed them constantly so that they know if I keep them full a lot of people if you’re full my dog if it’s full doesn’t want to necessarily just keep eating so I’m constantly there and basically
letting the narcissist have his or her own way. Female narcissism too. And they’re there to kind of get by and do whatever they want. There is no, you know, in that with the person who’s in the the experientially. If you’re in the supply, the empath there, you don’t have a me. Now, you do theologically, of course, you have a me, but you’ll lose it.
