well we said we were going to continue this very important discussion on goodbyes now we’ve talked a lot about good boundaries and so if you’ve missed any part of that conversation I want to remind you that good boundaries are really what should be applied and kept consistently um first but when we hit this point where either the relationship becomes unsustainable because it’s gotten so healthy or possibly even unsafe or we have to just accept a goodbye because the other person has literally walked away from us whatever
the case may be we need to know what to do and I’ve said this before but I’ve been a Christian for a really long time and I have been in countless Bible studies and lots of sermons and yet I felt like this was so important for us to tackle because I’ve never before studying this for the writing of this book and the living of this message I’ve never been taught about how to say goodbye when I researched that word goodbye I actually found that its origin was God be with ye and then it was shortened to God and then be
ywe and then it was eventually shortened to goodbye but there’s this notion that the goodbye was never supposed to be a harsh shoving away or a a situation where it’s like goodbye and good riddens it it really was in our heart no matter how that relationship ends being able to get to the place that we can say I’m releasing this person because the relationship is not going to continue and and maybe even keeping our heart soft or willing enough to heal in the direction of eventually being able to say and God be with you yeah and that’s
hard it’s challenging and I don’t want to minimize the emotional turmoil and Trauma so Jim I want to turn to you first when someone walks away from us how can we really process this in a healthy way and again I just cannot emphasize enough because I personally know the Heartbreak that comes along with this that I don’t want it to just just seem like I’m asking this question and we have this quick protocol and then you’re going to be healthy it’s quite a process well the words again come right to the four of this thing when someone
walks away from you and so they are walking away I do believe so many time in God’s word that people walked away from God the Rich Young Ruler which we’ve talked about before and um God didn’t necessarily go chasing them down or at time even turn them over to themselves I think there’s a a template or a paradigm there and we’ve said it so many times that when someone shows you who they are believe them and they are really walking away but look it’s not just they’re walking away listen to the words they’re walking away from you they
