First of all, when I was going through the divorce and just after the divorce for several years after the divorce, I kept saying, I will never ever get into a relationship where my well-being can be so impacted like it was when I was married. So, I that was me kind of drawing this line in the sand and just saying like I’m not even open to this.
And I remember one >> clarification of that too. Um, just the inside scoop of that is when Lisa says that, what she means is she made that personal decision, but she verbalized that personal decision with the people that are the closest to her. Yes. And so she said that to her kids, she said that to Gemini, she said that um to her girlfriends that have been walking that I think of two specifically that were walking through a very similar season.
Um and that built in a sense of accountability for you where um I think maybe you could have been tempted to, you know, Jim has that phrase uh having and you got to be careful how you say it. Make sure that your picker is not wrong, you pick right and um and so I think you have some accountability that sorry >> no thank you for that clarification.
Yeah, but I remember my oldest daughter Hope saying, “Mom, maybe you shouldn’t use never.” >> Wow. because there may come a day where it becomes a possibility. So, you know, don’t put your whole future in this box labeled never, you know, and um and she was right because there eventually came a time where I felt like I was ready and um but the the most >> surfer loves coffee is just got great taste, likes watches.
>> Yes. I mean, you know, >> um, but it it was a very terrifying reality for me to think about even going on a date with another person, even starting the possibility of a new relationship. And so, in those years before I was open to dating at all, um, that’s exactly what Jim said, Lisa. You have to be careful because your picker is broken.
