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How to Study the Bible So God Actually Speaks to You Good evening. I wonder if I could just pause for a moment and ask you a question that’s burning in my spirit. When you open your Bible, what are you truly looking for? Are you looking for facts, for doctrine, for a lesson to [...]

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Why Love Bombing Feels Good — But Isn’t! I have experienced this before in a relationship where there was a lot of rejection and a lot of hurt, a lot of pain and I eventually made some decisions to take agency in that relationship and put up some healthy boundaries and honestly create some healthy [...]

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When They Say This … It’s Gaslighting! And I think gaslighting came from an old movie, right? There’s two different movies. Alfred Hitchcock has one. Yeah. Yeah. Where uh I don’t know. I can’t remember. Is it that the the woman would set the gas lamp, would go out and turn them on, turn all [...]

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Is Every Red Flag a Big Deal? Welcome to Therapy and Theology. I’m Lisa Turkers. This is Jim Crest and Dr. Joel Mudamali. Really, you guys just don’t even need introductions at this point, right? I could just say this is our friend Jim. Our friend Joel and we would all be fine. We’ve been [...]

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Not Just Fight or Flight: 4 Reaction Types Explained four reaction types. I’m going to name them, but I want to tell you something important. Um, so here we go. The exploder that blames others, the exploder that shames herself or himself, the stuffer that builds barriers, and the stuffer that collects retaliation rocks. Okay. [...]

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How To Set Boundaries With a Narcissist Okay. So, let’s say we’re listening and we realize, okay, not labeling, but containing that this is information to help make us wise. Um, that we suspect we’re in a relationship with a narcissist. And now, what do we do? Well, a great book, again, bestseller, Good Boundaries [...]

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Ever Wonder Why You React So Strongly? Here’s Why I want to talk about how better reactions can lead to better relationships. That initial emotional response that we have. But also I want to unpack how our feelings are great indicators but should never be dictators how we act and react. You know our character [...]

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Why Reflecting on the Past Can Be Dangerous >> No doubt. And um I really had to work hard on this. So I I just kept making mental notes. Like Lisa, don’t go back and romanticize the past and think like, wow, I just want to return to that, you know? And that’s a very [...]

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Overcoming What-If Thinking We have to protect our minds from the myriad of messages that our world wants to put on us. And if we stay completely open to everything, not everything is good for us, right? The scripture talks about that, >> you know, um everything is permissible, but not everything is >> beneficial. [...]

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When Life Feels on Hold and God Seems Late How can I keep from feeling like my life is stalled out while waiting for my divorce to be finalized? I feel like I can’t move on or function because I’m afraid of my husband’s retaliation until we’re legally divorced. >> I really relate to this [...]

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