Breaking Unhealthy Patterns: The Victim Triangle | Therapy & Theology

• Now, I want you to take great caution if you are in a relationship with someone who hurt you, but they refuse to own what they did, admit they were wrong, or offer any kind of restitution. Now, I know that this can be a common occurrence in relationships, but I want to make sure that we unpack information about the victim triangle here because it will help you recognize when you’re caught in this pattern of dysfunction so that it doesn’t become a typical framework for the relationships that we are in. And here’s the thing about the
• victim triangle. I’ve been caught in it. Have you been caught in it? Definitely been caught. Maybe just even last night. Oh, perfect. Oh, wow. Fresh. Okay. Have you been caught in it, Jim? Still am from time to time. Okay. So, I just want you to know that as we go through this episode, we’re not pointing a finger and saying you need to pay attention it.
• We are putting our arms around one another and saying this can be something that we all get caught in. So, the goal here is to find freedom from dysfunction. And if you are in a relationship with someone who you recognize there’s this kind of toxic behavior and I want to be careful how I say toxic because sometimes I think that word is overused now but it is toxic when you’re in a relationship with someone and they are the perpetual victim because if they if they are the perpetual victim that doesn’t mean they haven’t been
• victimized. They have been victimized at some point in their life. there is a legitimate wound there, but instead of moving on and getting healthy, they sit back in that role. And in order to perpetuate their victimhood, they have to have two other people, which that’s how the triangle is formed. There’s three points on the triangle.