3 Clear Signs God Is Telling You to Let That Person Go

• Good evening. It’s a sacred thing, isn’t it, to be gathered together with hearts that are seeking. So many of you come carrying a weight, a deep and private question about a relationship that feels tangled and tired. You’re holding on, but your soul is weary.
• You’re praying, but the heavens seem silent on this one matter. And in the quiet of your spirit, a question has begun to whisper. A question you’re almost afraid to give voice to. Is it time to let go? I want to speak to that whisper tonight. Not to bring a word of condemnation, but a word of discernment. Because there is a vast a celestial difference between giving up out of human disappointment and releasing something in divine obedience.
• One comes from a place of wounded pride, of frustration that our own plans have failed. The other the other comes from a place of surrendered faith, of trusting that God sees a landscape our hearts cannot yet imagine. You see, the enemy of your soul would love for you to believe that to even consider stepping away from someone is a failure of your love, a shortage of your grace.
• He’ll accuse you. He’ll say, “A real believer never quits. A real Christian loves unconditionally.” And there is truth in that. We are called to a love that is patient and kind. But precious friend, we must understand God’s kind of love is also wise. It is discerning. It does not enable destruction. It does not sponsor a slow death of the spirit.
• The unconditional love of God is for the person. It is never a mandate to remain trapped in a dynamic that crucifies the peace he died to give you. So how do we know? How do we sift through the confusion of our own hurt feelings, our stubborn hope, our fear of being alone or judged, and hear the clear, quiet voice of the spirit? It begins right here in this holy tension.
• We must ask God for the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him that the eyes of our understanding might be enlightened. We’re not looking for an excuse. We’re seeking a revelation. Think of the Apostle Paul. He had a burning desire, a burden for his own people, Israel. He prayed for them. He wept for them. He witnessed to them with a fervent heart.
• Yet time and again, he faced rejection, persecution, and closed doors. There came a point where the spirit of God did not tell him to stand on that same street corner and be stoned again. The spirit redirected him famously to turn to the Gentiles. Did Paul stop loving Israel? Never. His heart’s cry for them remained. But he released the method and the outcome of that burden to God. He obeyed the redirection. That is not giving up.
• That is growing up into the full counsel of God. Many of you are trying to love someone with a pall-like fervor and you are being met with a similar rejection. You’ve prayed, you’ve pleaded, you’ve been patient, and now you feel a strange stirring, a sense that to continue in the same pattern is an act of disobedience to a new path God is illuminating.
• That conflict you feel, the love for the person versus the draining toll of the relationship, that is often the very ground where God begins to speak. He doesn’t always shout over the chaos. He often speaks in the solemn, sober clarity that follows the storm of our own striving when we are finally still enough to ask, “God, what would you have me do?” This is not a message for the lightly wounded.